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Monday, 29 April 2013

Profile Blues & Butter

I talked to our social worker week before last. Take note that I do not talk to her on a regular basis - although I would like to call her every day and ask if they have our baby ready for collection yet.

This was actually only the 2nd time after our panel meeting that I had to call her. We were left with strict instruction that if we hear nothing from them it is because we do not have a baby yet and other that that there is really nothing that we need to talk about. But seeing that our lives and jobs and home address are busy changing I needed to find out whether it is necessary for another home visit. And no, it’s not. Once we are matched with a baby a local social worker will be send to do a home inspection and bob’s your uncle!

I also asked about our profile. Seeing that a year has passed, a lot of things changed and I am soooo much smarter than I've been a year before, it is probably a good idea to change certain things. I did not expect our SW to suggest that I redo the whole profile. See, in the time that we did our profile, scrapbooking was really hip and happening, but like all things it has become a bit old fashioned – and not in a good way. 
Photobooks are the new “in thing”. I’m very familiar with photobooks as I made 2 with our wedding photos which came out beautiful and professional. I feel a bit silly now thinking that our profile is shown around with all those lovely glossy photobooks…

And so I've loaded the software onto my laptop in order for me to work on it in the evenings. That was more than 2 weeks ago. I've finished 3 pages… Three pages which I’m not entirely happy about. The SW said that I must get it to them quick, my head says that I must be quick about it, but I’m just too darn tired and uninspired.

My life is a bit hectic at the moment. Not having hubby around to help definitely adds to the workload. Having to commute home over weekends are very draining and takes up a lot of time. At work we are implementing a new program and I have to work back and add all the data from end Feb as we need it to reflect the whole financial year as well as do my current work. I’m also still setting up my home office, getting quotes and organising telephone lines and equipment.
To top it all my brother got some really bad news from his doctor last week. Went under the knife today. The operation went well, so let’s pray that this is the end of that…

Very stressful time indeed, with me not getting around to do that profile.

I feel a bit like Bilbo Baggins - 
"I'm old, Gandalf. I know I don't look it, but I'm beginning to feel it in my heart. I feel thin. Sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread. I need a holiday. A very long holiday."
- not old and like I need a very long holiday - but a bit stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.


  1. Has your SW indicated if your profile has been shown at all? Best of luck with revamping your profile - not fun at all, I totally get that. There is so much pressure with compiling this - I hope it serves to be the ticket!

    I hope all goes well with your brother's recovery.

    1. Thank you Alicia. Our profile does not get shown to a lot of BM's, as our requirements are a bit selective. I must just get my second breath and DO IT already (and have some fun while doing it)!

  2. hey good luck with all you need to do - sorry you are so stretched...

  3. Juanita, who is your SW again, I know you have told me?
    With regards to your profile, I disagree that it has to be a photo book, you want a profile that will stand out and be different. Remember also that different profiles will appeal to different birth mom's. Some will prefer a photobook while some will prefer a scrapbook.
    I agree with Alicia, have you asked your SW if there has been any interest in your profile and if it has been shown to birth mom's, what was THEIR feedback on it?

    1. Hi Sharon - Eloise from ProCare. I have been considering doing a photobook for a while - especially since a lot of our info are changing - and when she suggested it I knew that it was time. So I really want to, just do not have the energy and frame of mind right now.. xxx

  4. oh my! THIS profile can be the book that catch the eye of your potential baby's birth mom... i agree with Sharon that it does not necessarily need to be a photobook. I believe that the birth mom who is carrying your baby, will instantly be drawn to your profile..just do it... the longer you wait, the longer it's going to take before you hold that little munchin in your arms xx

    1. Thank you Lynne - getting there slowly but surely xx